Effects of bullying and exclusion

School bullying has the potential to leave its targets with a wide range variety of long-term effects.   Research from Carlisle and Rofes found that the targets of bullying almost universally link their childhood bullying to the difficulties they now have in relationships, particularly in making friendships, belonging to groups, dealing with authority figures, facing conflict, and in relating to their significant others. They also report long-term feelings of shame, entrenched beliefs that they are unlikable, anxiety (often most intensely in social situations), difficulties with anger, thoughts of revenge, and depression.

James Lynch in his 2009 book A Cry Unheard documents the medical effects of schooltime loneliness.  He writes “Unable to relate to, or communicate with, their fellow man because of the shame of their “failure” at school, they [the students that were socially isolated] wander in emotional exile, dying prematurely decades later, out of society’s sight and broken hearted.”